Is your teen feeling overwhelmed with the thought of going to college? Is the thought of going to college causing them anxiety or even feeling depressed? Are their friends saying they’re acting differently because they think your teen has been blowing them off. The truth of the matter is, they may not have the energy to go hang out with them. Is the pressure from parents, teachers and even their friends for them to get into a “good” college becoming just too much? Have they said “if one more person asks me where I’m going to college, I’m going to scream”?
Do you feel like your child is prepared to go to college? Not just the academic things, but do you feel like they are prepared to navigate the campus? Have you thought about what it would be like for them to have to take care of themselves? What will they do if you need help with their classes? Has your child ever had to deal with people other than your family? How will your teen handle a roommate or a suite mate if they don’t get along? What will your child do to make friends?
Preparing for college can bring on so many emotions that they can then become overwhelming. Then when your child gets overwhelmed, they can get snappy, angry or even withdrawn. Friends and family just want to know what’s wrong and they’re not exactly sure what to tell them. They’ve tried telling you nothing is wrong, but you don’t believe that and they probably don’t either. Your child might have even said, “I just want this college process to be over, so my life can get back to normal”, but what will that look like once your child gets to college. You just want your child to snap out of it.
If you could help your child really figure out how to get over their anxiety, frustration, anger, sadness, feelings of being overwhelmed or even stuck, what would you do?
How do you think the rest of their high school or even the beginning of college will be different? What would happen if you asked for help? What would happen if your child could change the way they feel and truly enjoy the rest of their time in high school and transition into college with ease? How would you feel?
Every parent wants their child to be successful, but sometimes you don’t know how to help. This could be one of those times. Letting go of your child and allowing to navigate this college process and have a successful freshman year can be scary for you as well.
Would you believe all of this is normal? Transitioning to college can be pretty scary especially with all the pressure there is to succeed. As a Licensed Professional Counselor I’ve helped clients prepare deal with these stressors and prepare to be successful in college. As a parent of a college student, I can relate with you first hand on how you as a parent feel about letting your child go off to college and all of the emotions that you go through.
If any of this sounds like what your or your child is going through, please don’t hesitate to contact me. I provide online counseling for teens preparing for college, parents of the teen preparing for college, family counseling and counseling for teens in their freshman year of college to help with college transition. If any of this is something you’re interested in, I would love to schedule a 15 minute consultation to answer any questions you may have and discuss if my services are a fit for you.
I can’t wait to meet you!